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(A continuing series exploring the “HARMONIZE” formula
for achieving success on your pathways through life)
Whenever I am able or feel called, I seek ways to transform disharmony into harmony. Life is chock-full of responsibilities to our family, relationships, job, community and country, as well as to our health and well-being. We each must find our own path where we can best apply our skills, talents and capabilities. Every responsibility has its challenges, requiring us to dance between stress and harmony, seeking balance and resolution. The truer we are to our own nature, what we care about and what’s important to us, the easier it is to fulfill our responsibilities.
Responsibility is an action word whose roots are “response” and “able.” A responsible person is reliable, dependable and trustworthy. They are people who answer the call when you need them. Living responsibly requires you to be flexible to life and the needs around you. It asks you to examine your capabilities and then to respond accordingly.
Trust can only be earned when you demonstrate you have the ability to do the job and come from a place of truthfulness and honesty. Thus your actions are not based on, “I have to,” but rather “I want to,” from a place of caring and/or compassion. If resentment contaminates your thoughts and feelings, your actions will reflect this and trust can be lost. Living true to your own nature, honoring your values, purpose and beliefs, you make better choices in determining where you want to put your energies.
Maintaining Harmony and Balance
Often responsibilities are thrust upon us when we feel we have no choice, or, they become greater than we could have imagined. Early this year I discovered that Mae, an 89 year old family friend, was declining and needed to move into senior housing. With no children to help her, I felt compelled to take on the responsibility of helping her make this transition. Little did I know that this would later turn into becoming her caregiver, helping her handle her financial affairs and ongoing healthcare issues.
Helping Mae, has required me to rearrange my work schedule and personal life around her needs and issues. I do this both because I care about her and because I know she couldn’t do this alone. I am also mindful of my ability to serve that need and make a difference. While seeking to create harmony in her life, however, I am constantly being mindful of maintaining harmony and balance in my own.
The analogy of flying in an airplane and putting the oxygen mask on oneself first, then on those less capable, is a great lesson in the dance of fulfilling our responsibilities. More and more baby boomers, often referred to as the “sandwich generation,” are finding themselves in the midst of care giving at both ends – for children and elders.
A key component to harmonizing your life pathways with responsibilities is to consciously discover ways to feel gratitude for having the opportunity to do the job, help someone achieve a result or make a difference.
Check out other posts in this series:
- Harmonize with Accord and Agreement
- Harmonize with Heart and Home
QUESTIONS TO PONDER
What challenges do you have in handling responsibilities?
What possible changes you could make?
What ways have you been able to harmonize your life while handling responsibilities?
(A continuing series exploring the “HARMONIZE” formula
for harmonizing your pathways through life)
To live in harmony is to live in agreement with the life path you are navigating. The “A” in the word HARMONIZE asks you to live with agreements and choices based on the real authentic you, not on other people’s agendas. An agreement isn’t just a legal document you sign when you accept a job, get married, buy a car or a house. Agreements are made each and every moment of your life.
We fall out of the womb into a template of beliefs and circumstances that our parents had already constructed for us. It’s a no-brainer, it seems! I was born into a household with a lot of anger, unhappiness, power struggles and being told, “you never do anything right.” This became the norm for me and I dutifully agreed to comply with my template. Yet, along the way I learned that this wasn’t the way everyone lived. Some of my peers actually received messages like, “you can do or be anything you want in life.” How lucky they were, I thought.
The truth, I have learned, is that the messages we receive throughout life are simply that. Like voice mail messages, we have the choice to agree to them or not, follow up with them or delete them. The gift of branching out into the world is the opportunity to learn how other people live. If your life was filled with positive reinforcement, understanding how the opposite can negatively influence people’s beliefs and choices in life can help you have greater compassion for their behavior.
What’s so wonderful about life is that past agreements need not imprison you for life. At any moment you have the freedom to change your beliefs and agreements and make better choices. This liberation is realized when you are living in accordance with the “real you” – the truth of who you really are. The root of the word accord means heart or mind. When your heart and mind are in agreement you are liberated to live your truth.
How do you discover your truth? For me, meditation, self-reflection, writing and sharing with trusted friends have been some of the ways that have worked for me. Being conscious, catching myself when I find myself operating or reacting to a situation based on old beliefs. My clients are some of my best teachers! Often the very challenge they are struggling with reminds me of an old agreement pattern that still peeks up its head in my life.
What is holding you back from a harmonious life? What beliefs and agreements are behind these obstacles? Make a list, choose one and then challenge it. Ask questions like,” is it true?” Can you absolutely prove it?” Download worksheets on “The Work of Byron Katie” website for simple processes to help you come into agreement and accordance with the “real you.” Also read, Don Miguel Ruiz’ book, “The Four Agreements.”
Join me for the next edition of this series.
Please share your comments below:
What agreements do you want to change?
What obsticles are getting in your way?
What processes have helped you create agreements and live in accordance with your true nature?
In my September 2009 newsletter feature article, “HARMONIZE Your Pathways Through Life,” I presented a 9-part formula based on the word “HARMONIZE” for turning disharmony into harmony in your life. Over the course of these next 9 blogs I will deepen my examination into this formula.
Harmonize–H as in Heart & Home
Did you know that the brain is an extension of the heart and that the heart has its own intelligence? Over 30 years of research at the Heartmath Institute has revealed that half the cells in the heart are neurons – the same type of cells that are in the brain. The heart forms in the fetus before the brain and it doesn’t need to be connected with the brain in order to beat.
Is it any wonder that strong feelings of disappointment, sorrow, guilt, anger and hopelessness can rule your life? Yet at the same time love, peace, enthusiasm and hopefulness can also preside. Life challenges can leave a deep scar on your heart. While the pain may lessen over time, or we hide it behind a happy face, the real healing must take place inside.
When I realized there was no chance for reconciliation after a breakup with a long-term partner who I dearly loved, I used a simple but powerful process to forgive him, and myself. I recited this affirmation daily: “You are free and I am free. All is well between us. I am free to live from my inner truth. Peace is the order of my day.” Over time I experienced an incredible healing, knowing I was still a vital lovable person. By letting go I was able to feel renewed and invite in new and exciting opportunities.
Whenever my heart is heavy I seek out people who really believe in me and who are non-judgmental. Introspection, journaling and writing have also been powerful tools to help me sort things out.
Is your heart in your home? Does your home support you in making the most of your life journey? Does it help you grow and thrive? Your home is like a canvas on which you paint an expression of your inner thoughts, feelings, and past memories—including your childhood home.
For many years I have consulted people in their homes with both coaching and the Chinese art of feng shui. I have consistently observed how our home mirrors or reflects our life and how it plays out. In cluttered homes people’s lives are generally in a state of disharmony and lack of focus. Some homes lack warmth or a feeling of hominess, others are like Grand Central Station, people coming and going with no time for each other. Still others are like castles with many unused rooms filled with old memories, reflecting an inability to let go of the past, live in the present and invite in new opportunities.
When you change your environment to align with your truth and the spirit that moves you, the mirror of your home can project a reflection that helps you feel more positive about yourself, resulting in a more harmonious pathway in your life.
Janice and Bob agreed to do a powerful “home reflection” process I led them through. They discovered that their lives were overburdened with “stuff,” and they had put their dreams of traveling on hold. The outcome was their decision to downsize into a smaller home, streamline their work and personal lives to allow more time for family travel and activities. Even though their portfolio has since declined with the market, their thriftiness has given them the freedom to live their dream.
I would love to hear from you and your experiences.